About The Velvet Thorn Femdom Community in SL
The Velvet Thorn is a lighthearted femdom community in the Second Life universe where we don't take ourselves too seriously. It's a safe place to explore virtual sexuality, BDSM, femdom / female dominance and male submission.
RULES OF THE VELVET THORN
NO: male dominance
NO: genital nudity
NO: soliciting/escorts/prostitution/financial domination
NO: offensive weapons or meters
NO: littering (pick anything you rez)
NO: child avatars
NO: interrupting scenes in progress
YES: SCC and RACK
YES: honesty
YES: communication
YES: openmindedness
YES: tolerance
YES: community
YES: education
Rules for Submissives
1) Do not send IM's without permission (except to staff with regard to a sim issue). Ask for permission in main chat. For example, 'Lady Starsong, may I im you please?'
2) It is expected that submissives will address ladies with a polite title such as "Lady or Miss" (Mistress is usually reserved for 'owners'). These are the rules to avoid unnecessary drama. Male switches and owned subs ARE required to call dominant ladies by a polite title.
3) It is NOT REQUIRED that subs must kneel in Velvet Thorn.
Subs may stand or sit on the low stools and cushions provided in the common areas. Please do not stand in the walkways, stairs and entrances to rooms. Subs MAY NOT kneel in front of a Domme without first seeking permission or being specifically asked to kneel by the Domme. A submissive may respectfully decline to kneel to a Domme who is not their owner. Subs may sit on the multi person seats (such as the cuddle chairs or sofas) only if requested to do so by a Domme. If the Domme crashes or leaves, the sub must stand or move from the chair.
4) Some girls also recognize the pleasure in deferring to another woman, Velvet Thorn does not discriminate against Submissive girls and requires all its members to act similarly.
5) We welcome switches but would ask that they maintain one role in this sim and avoid any drama by clearly establishing which role they are in. Any sort of male dominance will not be tolerated and male switches are expected to defer to ladies and also call them by a polite title such as Miss.
Rules for Dominants
1) No financial domination of any kind
2) Be honest about your rl gender.
(It is not in keeping with a femdom for men to assume a dominant role. For those whose gender does not fall into strictly male or female, e.g. shemales, and who consider themselves domme, we would ask that you make this clear with the fliptitle provided at the end of this document).
We are all adults in VT, and the expectation is that you will act with honesty and with integrity in your dealings with others here. This is especially relevant with regard to your RL gender. Submissives come to Velvet Thorn to interact with FEMALE DOMINANTS. We cannot control the gender of the person behind the screen and we do not have any reliable “verification program.” The owner, StarSong Bright, does not wish to be the gender police and leaves that to the participating parties to work out for themselves to their own satisfaction. We ask that any males who wish to represent themselves with a female avatar, and portray themselves as a female dominant are honest in their dealings with subs and others they encounter. It is not appropriate for a male in RL to request or wear a Mistress title at the Velvet Thorn Femdom.
3) Please do not scream, shout or threaten our subs without their consent.
(Don't fall for the stereotypes, getting your panties in a twist over every little thing. Making drama does not make you a Domme and is not the appropriate way to gain respect from others. Nobody respects a drama Domme. Have standards, of course, but add a good dose of practical common sense and don't take yourself so seriously. We are all here to have a good time).
4) Try to include people in voice/ chat
(Please keep in mind that a very LARGE percentage of the people in VT are not native English speakers and that it is very easy for miscommunication to happen in such a chat environment. Please show understanding that not everyone is capable of using voice and try to include them in type if at all possible).
5) Owned subs still need to be polite to others.
Please encourage your owned subs to be polite to other dommes and also to use a respectful title to all of our ladies.
Rules for Switches
1) If you consider yourself a Switch (switching between Domme and Sub, not gender), please help with providing others a clear indication of your current mood by wearing whichever VT tag is appropriate. Female VT members can request both a Mistress and a Submissive tag.
2) Follow the appropriate rules above.
3) To prevent confusion, it is HIGHLY recommended that you try to keep to one title or the other while visiting the sim. Therefore don't get upset if you do switch (even one day to the next) and people get the titles wrong, it just makes unnecessary drama.
Rules for Visitors
1) Everyone is welcome to visit and play. However any form of male dominance will NOT be tolerated (this includes but is not limited to males having a submissive leashed, males issuing orders to anyone in the sim, males having a submissive kneel at their feet). It is also not appropriate to refer to males here as "Sir", "Master", "Mr." or similar. No male will wear a tag with a similar inference e.g. 'Prince', 'Daddydom' etc.
2) Non-submissive male visitors may sit on the sofas in the common areas IF they are wearing the guest fliptitler that reads "Velvet Guest - OOC" ONLY! We ask that you defer to the ladies and give up your seat if asked. It is never appropriate for VT subs to wear the fliptitle just to be out of character. And this is not an excuse to avoid kneeling or using the stools. Or to avoid calling ladies 'Miss'.
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*SCC: SAFE, SANE, AND CONSENSUAL. A code of conduct which holds that any activity between adults is acceptable as long as it is safe, sane, and consensual.
*RACK: RISK AWARE CONSENSUAL KINK. A code of conduct in the BDSM community which holds that a given activity is ethically acceptable between adults so long as everyone involved is aware of the risks involved and gives informed consent to that activity. The idea behind "risk aware consensual kink" is an acknowledgement of the fact that some BDSM activities may involve risk of injury, and that as long as all the participants are aware of any risk and willingly consent to the activity, the activity is ethical.
